Friday, June 23, 2017 at 10:57 PM
As a child, I always wanted to be a dancer. Whenever I was at Grandma’s, I always had to dance for her.
Then, at some point, the end of school was in sight, and I had to choose something “serious.” I wanted to become a foreign language correspondent for English and French. I was accepted by the school in Hamburg. Then came the big disappointment: students from Hamburg had also applied, and as someone from Lower Saxony, I was out of the running. Even the accommodation and everything had already been arranged. I was supposed to stay during the week with my dad’s boss and his wife (a super-nice older couple) and go home on the weekends.
I was a bit undecided after that. Then the career counselor came to school. Amazing what a guy like that thinks he knows about a teenage girl. Well, he recommended office clerk, and my parents thought that was a great idea.
I quit my first apprenticeship during the probationary period. The boss was quite fond of alcohol, and basically, I was always the one who messed everything up—and I was even blamed for the money missing from the cash register (which the boss’s wife had taken out without a receipt).
It’s a good thing I quit, because the company went under anyway.
I then continued my training in the office of the head of the KZ guild. I wasn’t happy there either.
About six months before the end of my apprenticeship, I got married and soon became pregnant. The contract expired on July 31, but the final exams weren’t until the fall. It took a lot of effort to get an exam date. At the Chamber of Crafts, the opinion of the men was, “She’s married and pregnant—why bother with the final exam?” But I stood my ground and earned my qualification.
For many years after that, I was a “little housewife,” taking care of our two children and helping build our house. Through the construction project, my husband had come into contact with a heating contractor for heat pumps.
As a master electrician, he was able to build control panels and commission the heating system on the side. Eventually, there were quite a few control panels, so I was “trained” and then worked away building them too. That was really fun. I eventually got into it and started drawing up the technical plans for the systems.
Then came the divorce, the second marriage, the third child, the second divorce, and a trip to the social services office. Through a reintegration program, I got in touch with the tourist information office in a North Sea resort town. I was able to do a few internships there and eventually got a job.
Looking after guests—that was great. That was my world, and if I’d had different conditions and different coworkers, I’d probably still be there.
Now, at sixty, I’m back where I was as a child: dancing. I’m in a senior dance group and am trying my hand at training to become a dance instructor. Then I’m supposed to take over the group.
Somehow, the dream job didn’t quite work out, but needlework (especially crocheting) has been with me all those years, through all the ups and downs.
Best regards, Marlies.
I think it’s great that things sometimes get this personal here and that we learn a bit about our fellow members. You hear so many different life stories and sometimes think, “Wow, I know that too.” Thank you.