Sunday, June 29, 2014 at 12:33 AM
Hello everyone,
after the discussion a few days ago and the posts here in this thread and in other threads—which I found very unpleasant and unwelcoming—I actually wanted to leave the forum. I felt out of place and unwelcome here as a non-seller and “just” someone interested in buying. I felt snubbed by these sellers’ comments, which I interpreted as, “You’re welcome to buy our patterns—and in large quantities, of course—but talking to you or answering your questions? Not a chance.”
I’d actually started Googling for other craft forums. But then other posts appeared here in the thread—more welcoming ones with kind words—and after a few days, my frustration subsided a bit. I appreciate this platform because there’s always something new, always something to discover. Until a few months ago, there were also many threads here in the forum that I really liked. Unfortunately, almost all of the users who used to post regularly in the threads from a few months ago are no longer here—or at least that’s how it seems to me. It’s common in forums for users to come and go, leaving only the core group behind. Maybe some or all of those users will find their way back to this forum someday. I’d really like that—there were some very nice people there.
There are lots of nice discussions here and plenty of friendly users, even though I sometimes find the tone a bit off—but I’m not really the type to get involved in online arguments. That’s why I’ve preferred to avoid such discussions whenever possible and just hang out in other threads instead.
I may have approached this a bit naively. I always thought that in craft forums, you’d find like-minded people of all ages. Since we share a common interest, it shouldn’t be hard to have nice conversations. You can do that here, too—at least if you’re patient enough to stick with it. But I’m not really the type to give up easily.
I can’t contribute much in terms of expertise or techniques—I’m still mostly on the asking side. But the last few posts here in this thread give me hope that there’s a place in this forum for people like me, too. I’d really appreciate it if dialogue between sellers and buyers were possible. And I’d also really appreciate it if this strict dividing line in the forum could be softened a bit. Of course, users here are either buyers or sellers, but aren’t we all, every now and then, simply “just” users here in the forum? We don’t always have to reduce people to whether they’re primarily selling or buying—it’s also about our shared interest in the topic. I think if we could sometimes move away from this strict division, it would only benefit the forum. Of course, I realize that sellers here in the forum aren’t just participating for the fun of it—it’s also very much about drawing attention to their own products, attracting customers, conducting market research, developing ideas, and observing other sellers and their ideas. That’s perfectly fine; it’s allowed, and it certainly serves a purpose—something sellers really can’t do without. Still, I’d really appreciate it if, every now and then, a dialogue on equal footing were possible—simply from one craft enthusiast to another. I don’t know if that’s a utopian idea; I’m sure I’ll be able to figure that out from your reactions and feedback on my post.
For now, I’d like to wish you all a restful night’s sleep and a wonderful Sunday.
Sunny regards, Sidney