Is Valentine’s Day a topic for you? Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?

Dear users, dear authors,
how do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Is it just another day for you, or do you do something special? Let me know. 

monika-58 That’s exactly how my husband and I see it, too—I don’t need this day to tell my husband how much I appreciate and love him; I can do that any day.

Hugs, Inge

My husband and I have never celebrated Valentine’s Day in the 20 years we’ve known each other, because we also believe it’s important to treat each other to little pleasures on a regular basis, regardless of a specific date :-)

We make a point of spending Valentine’s Day together.

Often, so many other commitments and events take priority over our time as a couple. On this day, our family knows that it’s just the two of us spending the day together—no one calls, no one stops by. No flowers, no gifts, and no business trips or evening plans.

We’ve been doing this for 20 years now. I really like Valentine’s Day.

It’s never been a big deal for me.

We didn’t grow up with it—much like Halloween, it didn’t come to us until later. Personally, it doesn’t mean much to us, but we spent a few winters in the Caribbean, and the Americans vacationing there made a huge fuss about it. Restaurants and stores were decorated, women were given a rose everywhere they went, and in every supermarket, at least one jewelry counter and one lingerie section had been added a few days beforehand so that the gentlemen could quickly pick up a gift. Instead of saying “good morning,” people would shout (as loudly as possible), “Happy Valentine!”
So in that sense, we’ve celebrated a few Valentine’s Days in style, but we really don’t miss it now. 🤣

We celebrate it every year.... My husband’s birthday is on February 14 🎉🥳💓🥳
I always enjoy the pretty decorations you see everywhere around that time.... just a few little touches that make the birthday table look nicer... 
I can easily do without flowers and all the other “artificial fuss.” 

Last year on Valentine’s Day, we bought a vacuum cleaner. Just to give you a little glimpse into our level of romance xD

We’ve never celebrated Valentine’s Day either, because for us, every day is celebrated with love. It starts with a leisurely breakfast. That was the case even when we were still working.

As Petra writes, I also think it’s nice, especially if one partner is usually very busy. A day just for the two of you—that’s a gift a couple can give themselves.

And if one partner also has a birthday, like Steffi’s husband, it makes the birthday even more special. But what about the other partner then?

He’ll be left out in the cold, so to speak… I’m busy with “his” birthday 🤷
What did he say? “The nice thing about having a birthday on Valentine’s Day is that you don’t have to give anyone a gift…”
  So Valentine’s Day isn’t quite that romantic for me.
I admire you, dear Monika, for celebrating every day with such love....
Here, everyone does “their own thing”—it’s kind of like a shared apartment where everyone has their own tasks. We rarely do things together here... 

That’s really too bad, Steffi. I went through a one-sided relationship like that once, too, but my second try turned out to be a real jackpot.

Aside from the fact that this is our second go at it, it’s probably also a matter of age. I couldn’t live like that anymore—spending time together is so precious!

For us, it’s just like it is for Monika—we enjoy our time together every day.
We’re both already 60, so we see things differently than we did in our first relationships.
Bernhard would have started buying flowers all the time at the beginning, too, but I quickly talked him out of that.
We often go out for breakfast or Sunday lunch—I much prefer that.
February 14 is just a commercial gimmick; in a bad relationship, a bouquet of flowers doesn’t make things any
better. Bernhard is a jackpot for me, and I’m the same for him.
We know how lucky we are, because we’ve both lost a child and a partner.

It works even in a long-term relationship—we’ve been together since I was 17, and now I’m 65—and all I can say is, I’d take him back in a heartbeat and do it all over again exactly the same way. Steffi, it’s such a shame you have to describe your relationship that way; I would never have had the strength to do that, and thankfully, I’ve never needed to. I wish you all the best, and then some.

Monika, you can really count yourself lucky. I’m sure very few couples can say that with such conviction.

I also wish everyone here who isn’t enjoying that kind of happiness lots of joy every day, despite everything. Take care of yourselves and do something nice for yourselves whenever possible.

Warm regards
Monika