Bridezilla

Dear users, dear authors,
Could it be that you were kind of a Bridezilla (= the opposite of a totally relaxed bride) at your wedding , or would you never, ever, ever, ever, ever do that?
Has there ever been a totally relaxed bride?

If you don’t like this question, I’ll take it all back. :-)

As an unmarried woman, I can’t speak from personal experience, but this is a fun topic, and I think everyone here has encountered a woman at some point who was unrecognizable before her wedding 😅

I was relaxed. Everything was already prepared and planned—why on earth would I be anything but relaxed?!
It was a jam-packed day, though, because we were at the registry office in the morning—I mean, it was 10:30—and after that we went to a small reception with soup at a restaurant so that the guests who had already arrived would have a place to “kill some time”…I then dashed off to the hairdresser’s and had my hair—which I’d worn down that morning—styled into a bun (without “bridal curls” on the sides…I find those creepy 🫣😂). Then I changed at Mom’s, put on some subtle, fresh makeup, and waited for my carriage—unfortunately “just” a fancy Mercedes, because it definitely wasn’t carriage weather on December 11 😉.
The only thing that made me a little nervous was that the ring exchange in the church hadn’t happened yet… I kept glancing at my sister, who was supposed to hand the rings to the two pastors (we had a Protestant wedding with the Catholic pastor in attendance). She just kept shrugging her shoulders…
And just before the end of the service, our Protestant pastor suddenly realized, so to speak, that the ring exchange was still missing and that without it, the entire wedding ceremony would be null and void 😂
So in the end, everything turned out fine…
Well, and this year we’re already celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary…so our marriage has come of age 😉

Otherwise, though, I’ve only ever known relatively laid-back brides—even my sister was pretty relaxed, even though her little one was teething like crazy at the time and was accordingly cranky 😂

My sister and brother-in-law were so laid-back that they even managed to show up almost a quarter of an hour late to their own wedding 😂😂 They just said, “What do you guys want? They can’t start without us anyway,” and my mom almost freaked out.

Love, Inge

I wasn’t a Bridezilla either. Here are some things that could have thrown me off during our wedding (civil ceremony + party at my parents’ barn):
I still had bruises on my arms from the laser tag bachelorette party; my maid of honor arrived a little later than planned to help me with my hair and makeup; the best man hadn’t been able to download the second song for the ceremony beforehand; the registrar mispronounced our last name the entire time; one of the caterer’s desserts had gone bad (it was the hottest day of the year)

I wasn’t completely relaxed either—I was definitely nervous. Even though my husband took my last name, it was me who made a spelling mistake at the registry office^^ because I didn’t write out my first name in full at first. We got really nervous for a moment when we couldn’t find the entrance at first.

The only real tension actually arose in situations where people expected us to be more organized or traditional. For example, my mother and I initially had a falling out over the food. She said we couldn’t possibly serve the few older guests such a “young, unconventional” Mediterranean buffet—we had a good laugh when we realized we’d been served something just like that at a 60th (or was it even a 65th?) birthday party not long before. Then, I think there was some kind of discussion about seating arrangements, and I’m told I rather brusquely rebuffed my cousin when she tried to save us from “incorrectly” distributing the cake—claiming that we “had to” freeze the top tier to eat on our first wedding anniversary.

Bridezilla! That name is really great! 🤣🤣
No, I wasn’t one—I’m (almost) always completely relaxed. That said, I also spare myself a lot of chaos by planning very meticulously. I’ve been married twice, but both times it was “just” a civil ceremony. That saves a lot of hassle.
And accordingly, I was selective with the guest list—potential troublemakers weren’t invited in the first place.

I’ve never even heard of that term. I had a very small wedding, just my closest family.
I’ve never regretted it. When I see today how much effort people put into it, I often get the feeling
that the party is the only thing that matters. You can also see that in how many couples break up again after a few years.
Sticking together through thick and thin—that message seems to get overlooked a lot.
I’ve been with my partner for 13 years now; many people would prefer it if we got married.
If I were to do it again, I’d keep it very small.
That way, it wouldn’t be a big deal for me to be a Bridezilla.

What about Groomzillas? Husbands with high expectations? Do they exist too?